An interesting viewpoint

Illiad (J.D. Frazier) of User Friendly wrote this in his blog:

NOT MULTICULTURALISM, BUT COVERT COLONIALISM: As a resident of the Greater Vancouver area, I’m both grateful and proud of the cultural diversity that surrounds me. By virtue of my parents and their jobs, I travelled a lot when I was just a kid, and grew up in non-Western environments. This gave me a marked appreciation for cultures other than the one I now call home here in Canada.

Canada has long been an advocate of multiculturalism, a policy which encourages its immigrants to bring their culture with them to their new country, although there is a clear understanding that they will be subject to the laws and customs of this land and not their country of origin. And that’s all good because I’m a huge fan of food from around the world! Indian curries, Vietnamese noodles, Mongolian khuushuur…the mouth waters. The greater the variety, the better. Dining is an excellent excuse for socializing and making new friends, and even an introvert like myself opens up to strangers when seated at a table and introduced to new culinary marvels.

I live in a suburb of Vancouver called Richmond. Although Vancouver has a Chinatown, Richmond has become the de facto centre of Asian Everything in Vancouver. The city is peppered with really excellent Chinese, Japanese and Vietnamese restaurants, and there is a large section of Chinese malls. Within one of the malls is where I discovered an egregious example of “reverse colonialism.”

I occasionally go to the Asian malls because they sell products you just won’t find in the regular malls. One day I had a hankering for a Chinese confectionery known as “Haw Flakes.” I walked into a new convenience store in the mall and asked the proprietor if he carried any. He gave me a blank stare and didn’t reply. I asked again, and he just shook his head and went back to what he was doing.

I looked over his shoulder and sure enough, on a shelf, was a box of the flakes. So I pointed at them and asked him for a bag of them. He grumpily took them off the shelf and gestured at them, so I took a bag and put them on the counter. He rung it up and told me the total, in Cantonese.

As it happens I speak Cantonese, but his grumpy attitude annoyed me. So I pointedly looked at the cash register display and counted out the money and left. I could tell he was relieved that I was no longer in his shop.

It was abundantly clear that the shopowner either didn’t speak a word of English or simply refused to. I was sorely tempted to go back and explain to him, in Cantonese, that Canada has two official languages, and he had better start learning at least one of them. I’m glad I didn’t though, because the problem is a lot bigger than just one convenience store owner.

After this incident I began to pay attention to the attitudes of the merchants in Richmond. Anecdotally, I’d say about half of the retailers in the Asian malls have zero interest in learning or speaking English. If you need help buying something and you don’t speak their chosen dialect –it’s usually Cantonese, but Mandarin is really starting to take over– you have about a fifty-fifty chance of being ignored. In English-speaking Canada.

I have always been of the mind that when you visit a foreign country you’re the one that should make the effort to communicate with the locals. Speaking your birth tongue slower and louder doesn’t make yourself any more understandable, it just makes you look like a jackass. The onus to learn the local language is even heavier if you’re an immigrant. After all, you’re the one asking for the privilege of becoming a part of someone else’s community. That means you can bloody well learn the language; you don’t even have to succeed, you just have to show that you’re willing to try.

And trying is the attitude that counts! I recognize that a lot of older folks immigrate to Canada, and it’s a little tough for an 80-year old Mongolian granddad to become even quasi-fluent in English. But if he smiles and can say “hello” and “goodbye” and “thank-you” at least I’ll know that he cares about his adoptive community enough to make the effort, which is what I expect from an immigrant.

Hopefully a day will come when my wife and I can buy property in the Dominican Republic. They speak Spanish there, and as a result I will learn Spanish! The first phrase I learned was Lo siento, no comprende. Habla ingles? Most of the time the local will say no, but will happily work with me to figure out a way to communicate with each other. He knows I want to try, and that his language is the one that rightfully takes precedence in his country.

Those immigrants who refuse to learn the local language are in effect attempting to carve out an enclave, or colony, for themselves in their new country, an enclave where they can ignore all of the locals and in fact reject the community in which they live. I abhor this behaviour, as it serves only to erect walls within the community, and in this age of globalization that can’t possibly end well. Make no mistake, if you’re an immigrant to a nation that speaks a language other than your own, and you’re so arrogant as to refuse to try to learn the local tongue, you should turn around and go home. We don’t want you here, wherever “here” may be. And you can take your colonial arrogance home with you.I like that phrase: “colonial arrogance”. It sums up a bunch of different feelings.

A Few Updates

We played “Pass the Virus” last weekend. It was fun. Note: never feed your child goldfish crackers when they’re vomiting. It only makes the vomit a nifty shade of orange.

I think I’ve finally come to some conclusion on Spring Creek. I tried to make things better, but I’ve determined that better or best isn’t necessarily what they want. And I can’t work with that. I live with enough mediocrity and limitation in my own life that I just can’t go to church and accept less than the best. I can’t. I tried. So, no more graphics for church, no more nothing. If they need me, they know where to find me.

Where The Words Come From

Jacob’s been a talkative four year-old lately. Notable moments:

“Yippee-ki-yo-ki-yay.” We’re not sure where that came from. Hopefully not a Bruce Willis movie.

He went with my mom and dad to Central Market this past Saturday where they had a Celtic rock band of some sort. No, it wasn’t Slade for the two of you familiar with Celtic rock and roll. He had to go to the bathroom, so my mom took him. He did his business (at which he’s been very good lately, hardly wetting his pants at all), and then my mom said she needed to go to the bathroom. Jacob turns his back to her, stretches out his hands to the side, and announces: “I am a privacy expert!”

Sunday night was odd. Jacob came home asleep and essentially slept from 4:30 p.m. til 11 p.m. He then came into our room full of life, announcing that he was awake because his toenails were too long. Laureen sent him back to his room with green beans, popcorn, and Cars. This morning, he wound up in bed with us. I’m not entirely sure how he got there, but our bed was the happening destination.

Jessie’s talking a lot more, although it’s all mostly one-syllable words. “Yes” and “No” are big players. Occasionally, we’ll get an “I”, “love”, “you!”

What’s amazing is how much she adores Jacob and parrots a lot of what he does. I didn’t expect that to happen, but I’m thankful it is.

Updates, Better Dates, etc.

So, the frostbite “gap” hasn’t healed. I’ve got an appointment with a wound care specialist this upcoming Friday. If that doesn’t help, surgery will be needed….

I’ve added some new galleries for the kids from February to April. The links are to the left, or you can visit gallery.lopeyland.com .

Jacob turned 4 and had approximately 4 birthday parties, the ultimate one being a 14 guest celebration. The final total: 14 kids, 1 utter meltdown, 1 smashed pinata, 5 pounds of giveaway candy, 2 gallons of chocolate pudding, uh…, several great pictures, one girl who believed she was a dinosaur…

I built the slides for one of the songs this past week at church. My current complaint would be: if you want them done well, give me more notice than Thursday. Otherwise, you’re not going to get particularly meaningful shots.

Yes, it’s still not completely resolved in my mind. All I really want is for everyone to do what they say. If they mean get there at X time, hold people accountable.

Oprah, New Age, and … Whatever

You know, I’m already sick and tired of this. If you don’t know what’s going on, here’s a youtube clip. Now, let’s get beyond the fact that this is, essentially, an 8 minute ad for this person’s book. Let’s move beyond the fact that over 6 hours of Eckhart Tolle speaking, roughly 8 minutes were cherry-picked to use in this. Let’s not even mention that the so-called “trance” was a one-minute moment of silence. What gets me is the typical “Christian” response. It’s as if Oprah all of a sudden has turned from being a Christian into a New-Age Space Goddess, promulgating lies and driving the average viewer straight to Satan.

I believe that Oprah, through her show, is trying to empower people, typically and traditionally women, much in the same way that she’s been empowered. Yes, she has influence, but what is wrong with the message that you are in control of your own destiny? Jack Canfield says exactly the same thing in his Success Principles, but we don’t see the religious right jumping down his throat.

What is wrong with expanding your spirit? What is wrong with believing that you are connected to God by whatever means? I’m not big on New Age philosophy, but the sense of one’s place in this world is a primary focus. It seems that Christianity wants to keep God in a box that has been defined a long time ago and make sure He stays there, where we know what His will is going to be. News flash: we cannot know what God is until we’re off this earth.

A thing that’s always puzzled me is why there haven’t been any attempts to create a third testament to the Bible. Why do we stop at the Revelation? It’s not the end of the church’s story, and surely there’s got to be some way to celebrate God’s presence in our lives other than Guideposts…

Following Up on church stuff

It’s been a while since I posted about my little Springcreek drama (where I had a hard time listening to other people), so a followup is in order.

Tonight, after the First Wednesday service, Scott (the guy who gets paid to manage the presentation) asked if I had a few minutes…

I knew what was coming. I really didn’t want it to be so, but when your boss asks you to meet with them privately, it’s usually not good news.

Apparently, there’d been noticeable tension in the booth when I last served. Charles is frustrated with me; I’m frustrated with him. I get frustrated at myself for making mistakes, etc., so much so that another volunteer sent a message to Charles asking what was going on between him and me.

So, Scott made an executive decision to pull me out of the booth and “work on other creative areas”, which means doing slides for music, etc., maybe video stuff once I get a computer that can do that. It’s supposedly only temporary, at least until things cool off.

No, I don’t know how I feel about it. I’m hurt that Charles didn’t talk to me directly; I’m hurt that a church that prides itself on building relationships isn’t letting this one sort itself out; I’m just hurt right now. I’m also in a down state, and I’ve got to take that into account.

But ultimately, what matters? Nothing of this earth, certainly. However, I’m not in heaven yet, so this world has a chance to try to cut me to see if I bleed.

I’m choosing for now to be gracious as possible. Right now, that’s not very gracious, because I’m human as the next person, but it’s the best I can do.